How does one succeed in life?
Last Updated: 19.06.2025 05:22
Big dreamer but only in his mind.
First, understand that, effective "change" should be 80% systems and only 20% willpower—not the other way around. Do not joke with that.
Can’t control his impulses (women, porn, masturbation, smoking, Netflix, anger, etc.).
Ask yourself:
Final example: Maybe you want to be a better version of yourself in 2025.
Example 2: Maybe you want to lose weight.
PICK 1 important thing you want to quit or bring into your life in 2025. Think hard about a system that will make it impossible or inevitable.
Making more friends is a goal.
However, he firmly believes that one day, he will (like by a miracle) be that new, dope version of himself, Sam’i 2.0:
Any straight men had a gay experience in the past? What was it and how did you feel?
If you don’t change now, expect tomorrow to be almost exactly the same—or worse.
Example 4: Maybe you want to quit porn for 30 days.
The money you’ve invested, the tailored plan, and the accountability of the coach make it almost impossible not to succeed.
Why are some people afraid of monsters?
Has a beautiful wife, cars, etc.
Similarly, "YOU 2.0" trusts you to make decisions for him.
Paying a coach with a detailed plan is a system.
How short is too short for a skirt?
Saving $10,000 is a goal.
Cutting off WiFi at home for a month or giving your phone to a distant friend for a month (in exchange for a Nokia or simply nothing) is a system.
How can I make the good habit (you want to start) inevitable?
How can I make it impossible to fall into a specific bad habit (you want to quit)?
“YOU 2.0” is like your future kid. It’s your duty to make decisions for him. It is wiser to marry a nice mom for your kid, not just a beautiful wife for yourself.
Quitting porn for 30 days is a goal.
What is something you saw while on an airplane that you couldn't believe?
Procrastinates a lot.
Attending 1 specific event every week is a system. Friends will naturally come to you.
Living to your full potential is a goal.
How do I come out as queer to my best friend in a funny and stupid way?
Losing 20kg is a goal.
Example 3: Maybe you want to make more friends.
Do not set goals—set systems.
Losers and winners have the same goals. The difference is their systems.
Porn blockers might help, but they won’t be as effective. And you know nudity isn’t just on Pornhub—it’s everywhere. Don’t joke with fire.
Scrolls too much TikTok/YouTube Shorts.
Can I use the LEG PRESS to build muscle?
Example 1: Let’s say you make a monthly income, and you want to save $10,000.
Avoids sugar and is very fit.
Opens a business and makes WiFi money.
Why have Indian girls almost stopped wearing sarees?
Hates going to the gym, eating healthy, or even doing laundry.
Most people think their 2.0 version will magically manifest and find it easier to do hard things.
Having a process that automatically transfers money to your savings account each month is a system.
Does not procrastinate.
That's it for today.
The truth is: Future YOU is simply YOU, but older and more tired.
Do humans know everything they need to know?
Like Sam’i, 99% of men treat their future selves like strangers—completely different from who they are right now.
What I need from you?
Buying, a book like Live Intentionally or any other practical self-improvement guide is a system.
An average man, let's call him Sam’i (that’s my name):
In 5 years, YOU will still be the one making decisions. And if you keep your current habits, "YOU 2.0" will have big problems.
Hangs out with loser friends.
I never raise problems without solutions. So, what to do?
Keep in mind that, there is always a system for any problem. You just need to be willing to think hard enough and BE WILLING TO MAKE SACRIFICES.
Self-disciplined (controls his d*ck, no Netflix, no smoking, etc.).